Getting Results

Are you getting the results in your life that you say that you want?  If you are, pat yourself on the back and put a smile on your face!  The reality is though most people today are not getting results in life, period.

Goal-setting is a skill and a tool that gets to be used.  I could go off and talk about goal language, timing, and verb tense, etc.  The intent for my writing today is more towards two qualities that many people lack – balance and focus.

Are the four areas of physical, mental, spiritual, and emotion all balanced in your life?  Are you too focused on any one of these areas and not enough on the others?  It makes a difference trust me.  When I am putting too much emphasis on my training and not enough on my spiritual life, it shows up as exhaustion.  When I play stoic and ignore my feelings, I feel blocked in other areas of my life.  All four areas of life get to be in balance.  You are fuelling your body with balance to serve you to be more in life.

When you are in balance you are more effective in your goal-setting and achieving.  Let’s take that one step further.  When you get totally focused on where you want to go, this is when you start to see results.

It’s simple.  Set your intention and get focused on it.  Get tunnel vision and shut out the distractions and nay-sayers in your life.  Let nothing stand in the way of designing and achieving the life of your dreams.  If maximum results is what you want, then get crystal focused and balanced!

If you could use some support in getting there, I will support you on the journey.

Getting Results

Coach Trudy

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Winning

I have said in earlier posts that it’s great to be in competition with yourself.  Be better today than you were yesterday.  I am all for competing with and pushing myself to be a better person.

I grew up competing in all areas of life in general.  I became a competitive freak of nature after my dad died.  Somewhere deep inside, I knew I wanted to make my dad proud of me who I imagined watching me from that great farm in the sky.  All the while, I was trying desperately to fill his void in my life with winning.

The color of my life was pretty black and white when it came to winning.  I just had to win – there was no other option.  When the desire to win took hold of my life, it made me  blind to the people and relationships involved.  It was a pretty unhealthy existence.

I am different today, thank you Jesus!  Here’s what I have learned and what I do know from my journey.  Competition is good and it brings a certain beneficial flair to life. It gives you an opportunity to hone your skill or craft and gets your adrenalin going in a healthy way.

Parents usually set the tone for how their kids view sports.  I look back and own that I wasn’t that great of a parent on the sidelines when my kids were younger.   We all have seen them or have been “those kinds of parents”, getting all up in their stuff over their kids’ play time, their kids’ team not winning, and what the coach is doing wrong.

Winning graciously and losing graciously is the sign of a true master of their craft. Losing has it’s place, too, for in a true competition, there must be a loser so there is a winner and vice versa.  We have all witnessed the tantrums and the fights that break out when someone isn’t happy with the result of the game.  I will flat out say that I do not enjoy watching fights or tantrums, do you?  Okay, I might have lost the hockey community over that statement.

Losing on purpose – well, that could spark another soap box rant for me.  Failing to play wholeheartedly really degrades the sport and insults the participants.  I get frustrated when I hear people saying that competition isn’t good for children because it hurts little kids’ feelings if they lose.  We all benefit from the experience of losing.  How much sweeter is the thrill of victory when you’ve experienced loss.  If the coaching and the parenting are on board, better humans can come out of a losing team experience than a winning team.  The character that is developed in sport can change the world for the better or for the worse.

Winning

Coach Trudy

Eradicate Procrastination

Come on.  I know you do it.  I do it.  What I do not understand is how I let get myself into a procrastinative state.  I get on such a roll and I am producing, then, before I even realize it, I have slumped into a state of couch potato.

Would you like to know how to eliminate procrastination from your life?  Set goals, set SMART goals.  Specific, Measureable, Attainable, Risky, Time lined.  Set yourself up to win, yet set your self up to live on the edge with the goal, too, with some risk.

From my own life I know I NEED to have a SMART goal I am working toward all the time.  Why?  To keep me moving forward.  I can be as lazy as the next person and slack off and do absolutely nothing.  There are times to relax and take some “me-time”.  Those times are needed.  When you find that you have spent nearly a month of your life on the couch, whether figuratively or actually, you know it’s time to get off the couch.

Now, I know you have done it.  So what?  Now what?  Just set a goal and start going after it.  Set some smaller mini-goals that feed into your bigger goal.  Prime example from my life, I set a goal for the Half-Marathon to support my health goal of losing inches & unwanted fat.  These two goals worked together synergistically for me to knock two goals off my list at the same time.

Eradicate Procrastination

Coach Trudy

Don’t Try to Fit In When You were Born to Stand Out

born to stand outI saw this saying on the wall at my girlfriend’s place. It stopped me in my tracks. We are all uniquely created to live and breathe and have our being. God doesn’t create junk, we have all heard that one a few times. Yet, do you believe it? Dig deep. Where are you placing your worth? In the external circumstances around you? In your children’s behavior? In the disappointments in your life that come your way?

I say that you have a choice to step into all that you can be, today, right now. For what purpose are you procrastinating? To get it “perfect”? I know you want to do it, so what’s holding you back? The haters and the naysayers in life? Will they be paying your bills tomorrow? The best time to get started on the life you long to have is now. Your boat sitting at the dock will not serve you long term. Set course and sail away. You can always course correct on your journey. It’s way easier to move a boat in motion than one that is tied up at the dock, true?

You were BORN to Stand Out.

Coach Trudy

Forever Strong

I was encourage recently to watch the movie Forever Strong. Maybe you have seen it or heard of the movie? It’s a 2008 rugby film directed by Ryan Little and written by David Pliler. Rugby is one of the few school sports that my family hasn’t been involved with directly and yet I do like a good sports movie now and again!

The story is about a rugby player named Rick Penning. He was captain of the team, a team that was fuelled by drugs & alcohol and ‘win at all cost’ attitude. What made it even more compromised was the team was coached by his own dad in whom Rick didn’t see eye-to-eye with. Due to some poor choices, Rick lands up in a Juvenile Detention Center. The manager of the Juvenile Detention Center gets Rick connected with the Highland Rugby team. Coach Larry Gelwix of the Highland Rugby Team took Rick in when he was at his lowest.

In pondering the theme of the movie, Forever Strong, I couldn’t help but introspect about my own life and the lives of those around me.   Coach Gelwix led his team with the theme: “Be forever strong on the field, so that you will be forever strong off the field.” What does that mean exactly?

Like my friend and mentor, D. Scott Pullan, would do, I dug a little deeper into the meaning of “forever strong”. Forever means continually, always, without ever ending. Strong means able to withstand great force or pressure, having moral, intellectual, or physical power, having great resources. Put those two words together and the meaning of “forever strong” means continually powerful in moral, intellect, or physical power. I would love to be remembered by that phrase, wouldn’t you?

This phrase “forever strong” served the Highland Rugby Team. They won 20 of 27 USA Rugby National Championships, six times runner-up, and one third-place finish all under Coach Larry Gelwix, a man of faith. That’s impressive. Coach Gelwix told Rick in one scene “Learn to listen and pay attention to that spirit inside of you. Learning to listen takes a lot of discipline. We only have one rule here: Don’t do anything that would embarrass you, your team, or your family.”

Some of the team’s founding beliefs were: “No drinking, no smoking, no drugs, keep clean with the girls, no cheating, no lying, be true to your character and your family. Have complete trust in each other! We are about winning – get a laser-like focus on every area of your life both on the field and off. Respect your family & ancestors. We stand on this field ready for battle. We honor our families & all our ancestors before us. We wear the emblem ‘to die for’ over our hearts.” I get chills when I heard this – the good kind of chills! You get the feel good feeling that these men are being trained for a higher good and achievement in life. A forgiveness & surrender quote that is worth sharing, “Don’t spend another minute being angry about yesterday. Free him, and you free yourself.” Forgiving someone is about letting the other person off the hook – whether we down deep think they deserve it or not. What are you waiting for? Who do you get to forgive today?

So in closing I found the key – “get laser-like focused” in every area of your life! Let nothing stand in the way of you and your dreams & goals. You are worth it. God created you uniquely and beautifully suited for great things. Get cleaned out of the “schtuff” that’s hindering you in moving forward, get balanced in every area of your life, and get crystal focused on what you want to change about your life. You can do it; I believe in you.

Be Forever Strong – Coach Trudy

Living By Choice

Living By ChoiceSo this picture caught my eye recently, and I realized that I would want to write about what it means to me.

I mentioned in a recent blog post that I had a pivotal moment of deciding to stop living as a victim to my circumstances and live responsibly. This post will be short, because I cover it in depth in my coaching sessions.

Look back on your life right now. Make a note of the times when you felt you had “no choice” and had to succumb to the circumstances around you. Go ahead, do it. Take a moment and truly reflect. Maybe it was a loss of a job, loss of a relationship, loss of a promotion. Whatever it is, you know the one I am talking about. Did you resign yourself to the circumstance? Did you resist it? Did you passively let others make choices for you?

If you truly get this, you will start to live in choice. If you don’t get it, you know how to reach me.

Living By Choice,

Coach Trudy