It came to me recently. As a former people pleaser for most of my life, I just wanted people to like me. Trying to be popular or one of the “cool” people used to plague me. What a waste of space and time – in some respects. I have learned that I am who I am. The experiences I have had have helped shape me into the incredible woman I am today. Yes, I said I am an incredible woman. How I longed to hear others say that. I can say it myself and allow it to soak in. I receive it well when I hear it from others – because I love myself. I can love others fully when I have learned to love myself first. Entering relationship with the purpose to make a new friend or acquaintance is so refreshing as compared to seeking relationship to fill the cavern within.
I saw a quote by Iyanla Vanzant that seems so appropriate. “If you really want to live your life to the fullest and realize your greatest potential, you must be willing to run the risk of making some people mad. People may not like what you do, people may not like how you do it, but these people are not living your life. You are!”
Go out there. Live life. Live it well. Love yourself. Love others. Know that some people will love you back, some won’t. Keep doing what you are doing.
Far From People Pleasing