Why Crawl When You Can Fly?

I have been reflecting lately on what moves me forward and what keeps me moving slow. I get to come face to face with a competing commitment I have. I am committed to my dreams and goals and I am committed to being lazy and comfortable at times. It’s like being hot or cold, black or white. There is no lukewarm or gray when it comes to my life.

Stop crawling when you can fly!! Seriously, what are you waiting for? Go out and “just do it”.

I found this song and the words moved me to fly. I am inviting you to do the same.


Coach Trudy



Do you understand what this word means?  I know I thought I knew what it meant at one time in my life.  Being brought up in a very strict, conservative Christian home, I had a strong legalistic understanding of what I thought it meant.  I thought it was doing what you were told, without question, with fear & trepidation, and much shame attached to it if I didn’t.

Being a competitive person most of my life, the reality was that surrender wasn’t easy for me.  The word itself seemed easy to get lost in.  I used to struggle with surrender because it symbolized “losing”, not being the best, not taking home the prize.

What I have come to realize and understand is that surrender is quite the opposite.  Surrender is the opposite of resistance.  Your greatest strength comes when you are in a place of total surrender.  It may be easier to talk about resistance first.

Resistance – a mentor of mine, Brian Klemmer, used to say “What you resist persists.”  Let that one set a moment.  Now think of how resistance affects your everyday life.  Let me throw out some possibilities: fighting traffic, a cluttered garage, missing a job promotion, going to the in-laws for a visit, eating your least favorite food, chores, a teenager who pushes your buttons….the list could go on and look much differently for you.  Have you ever noticed that if you have it, think it, feel it, it does some unpleasant things to your body.  Some people sweat, for others their heart starts racing, and for others they get a furrowed brow, these physiological changes to the body can have negative effects on your health.

Letting go of resistance is not simply “resigning”.  (Why try? What’s the use?)  When you make the choice to surrender to whatever the circumstance is and find a way of non-resistance, you start to open up the flood gates of possibilities.  Use whatever is going on to move yourself forward.  Go around the roadblocks instead of stopping and becoming stuck.

Think about it.  How much time and energy are you spending on resisting what you can’t change?  The way of surrender is being satisfied and at peace in whatever circumstance you find yourself in.  Happiness and satisfaction may or may not reside in the same circumstance.  It’s your choice.  You’ve heard the expression “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade”.  It is what it is.  Make the best of it.  Choose to surrender.  Be open to the possibilities out there.


Coach Trudy

Be Grateful

Trudy sunflower 2014

Be Grateful

Today is Thanksgiving Day in Canada.  On this day, more than usual, I pause to ponder and think of all that I am grateful for. Here’s my gratitude list:

My husband, Michael
My four daughters and their husbands or boyfriends
My four-legged fur babies
My mama
My three brothers and their wives
Extended family
My husband’s extended family
Our home
Our church
Good Food
Clean water to drink
An inquisitive mind
Hope for tomorrow

What are you grateful for?

Be Grateful

Coach Trudy