Don’t Try to Fit In When You were Born to Stand Out

born to stand outI saw this saying on the wall at my girlfriend’s place. It stopped me in my tracks. We are all uniquely created to live and breathe and have our being. God doesn’t create junk, we have all heard that one a few times. Yet, do you believe it? Dig deep. Where are you placing your worth? In the external circumstances around you? In your children’s behavior? In the disappointments in your life that come your way?

I say that you have a choice to step into all that you can be, today, right now. For what purpose are you procrastinating? To get it “perfect”? I know you want to do it, so what’s holding you back? The haters and the naysayers in life? Will they be paying your bills tomorrow? The best time to get started on the life you long to have is now. Your boat sitting at the dock will not serve you long term. Set course and sail away. You can always course correct on your journey. It’s way easier to move a boat in motion than one that is tied up at the dock, true?

You were BORN to Stand Out.

Coach Trudy


Eat Clean

One of my areas of specialty is in the area of Health & Wellness. I have been on this journey of self-discovery in regards to my weight, health, and reducing inflammation for a long time. I’ve tried fad diets, I’ve tried the organized healthy diets, and I tried the Hormone Diet. These plans would work for me for a while, then I would revert to my old ways and I would re-gain inches and pounds and gain a few more. As I get wiser, I get more in tune with my body.

Have you ever been sick and tired of being sick and tired? I was. I made a decision – find what works for yourself, Trudy, and stick with it. I still am very much involved with following health research and trying out what the health experts are saying these days. Having an attitude of being always the student serves me in every area of my life.

Recently, I earnestly followed the Elimination Diet for 6 weeks – cutting out sugars, alcohol, caffeine, dairy, corn, potatoes, tomatoes, citrus, red farmed meats, legumes, and grains. I became a big farmers’ market shopper and have eaten as close to the vine as possible.   At first I tried to do it without consuming any carbohydrates. And what I found was that training for a half-marathon, I needed sustenance. So, I added in rice & quinoa.

WOW, there is no need for coffee in the morning for me. I have more energy and have clearer thoughts than I have had in years. My inflammation is under control, I dropped nearly 20 lbs easily & effortlessly, and I feel great. Adding in certain foods one at a time gave me the self-testing ability to understand what works for my body and what doesn’t.

It really is simple. Eat clean. Eat organic as much as possible. Cut out processed foods. Go Veganish and cut down on the animal products consumed. Try it out. Oh, make sure you check with your family doctor. I am sure they support you in your journey to eat clean. And while you are at it, why not try going green in every area of your life …… hmm, I believe that will be a topic to revisit someday.

Eating Clean

Coach Trudy

Forever Strong

I was encourage recently to watch the movie Forever Strong. Maybe you have seen it or heard of the movie? It’s a 2008 rugby film directed by Ryan Little and written by David Pliler. Rugby is one of the few school sports that my family hasn’t been involved with directly and yet I do like a good sports movie now and again!

The story is about a rugby player named Rick Penning. He was captain of the team, a team that was fuelled by drugs & alcohol and ‘win at all cost’ attitude. What made it even more compromised was the team was coached by his own dad in whom Rick didn’t see eye-to-eye with. Due to some poor choices, Rick lands up in a Juvenile Detention Center. The manager of the Juvenile Detention Center gets Rick connected with the Highland Rugby team. Coach Larry Gelwix of the Highland Rugby Team took Rick in when he was at his lowest.

In pondering the theme of the movie, Forever Strong, I couldn’t help but introspect about my own life and the lives of those around me.   Coach Gelwix led his team with the theme: “Be forever strong on the field, so that you will be forever strong off the field.” What does that mean exactly?

Like my friend and mentor, D. Scott Pullan, would do, I dug a little deeper into the meaning of “forever strong”. Forever means continually, always, without ever ending. Strong means able to withstand great force or pressure, having moral, intellectual, or physical power, having great resources. Put those two words together and the meaning of “forever strong” means continually powerful in moral, intellect, or physical power. I would love to be remembered by that phrase, wouldn’t you?

This phrase “forever strong” served the Highland Rugby Team. They won 20 of 27 USA Rugby National Championships, six times runner-up, and one third-place finish all under Coach Larry Gelwix, a man of faith. That’s impressive. Coach Gelwix told Rick in one scene “Learn to listen and pay attention to that spirit inside of you. Learning to listen takes a lot of discipline. We only have one rule here: Don’t do anything that would embarrass you, your team, or your family.”

Some of the team’s founding beliefs were: “No drinking, no smoking, no drugs, keep clean with the girls, no cheating, no lying, be true to your character and your family. Have complete trust in each other! We are about winning – get a laser-like focus on every area of your life both on the field and off. Respect your family & ancestors. We stand on this field ready for battle. We honor our families & all our ancestors before us. We wear the emblem ‘to die for’ over our hearts.” I get chills when I heard this – the good kind of chills! You get the feel good feeling that these men are being trained for a higher good and achievement in life. A forgiveness & surrender quote that is worth sharing, “Don’t spend another minute being angry about yesterday. Free him, and you free yourself.” Forgiving someone is about letting the other person off the hook – whether we down deep think they deserve it or not. What are you waiting for? Who do you get to forgive today?

So in closing I found the key – “get laser-like focused” in every area of your life! Let nothing stand in the way of you and your dreams & goals. You are worth it. God created you uniquely and beautifully suited for great things. Get cleaned out of the “schtuff” that’s hindering you in moving forward, get balanced in every area of your life, and get crystal focused on what you want to change about your life. You can do it; I believe in you.

Be Forever Strong – Coach Trudy

Living By Choice

Living By ChoiceSo this picture caught my eye recently, and I realized that I would want to write about what it means to me.

I mentioned in a recent blog post that I had a pivotal moment of deciding to stop living as a victim to my circumstances and live responsibly. This post will be short, because I cover it in depth in my coaching sessions.

Look back on your life right now. Make a note of the times when you felt you had “no choice” and had to succumb to the circumstances around you. Go ahead, do it. Take a moment and truly reflect. Maybe it was a loss of a job, loss of a relationship, loss of a promotion. Whatever it is, you know the one I am talking about. Did you resign yourself to the circumstance? Did you resist it? Did you passively let others make choices for you?

If you truly get this, you will start to live in choice. If you don’t get it, you know how to reach me.

Living By Choice,

Coach Trudy

This is Love

Okay, before you think this is a mushy romantic post, wait and read on. I used to be so lost that I thought I needed to win, be better at everything, look like I have it all together to impress others. Have you ever done that? I did this for a long time, and I married someone with similar values. What I have found over the years, it just drives a wedge between you and the people you want to get closer to. At some point, I looked around and said “this sucks”. Sadly, it took me several years from that point to start getting it all sorted out in my own life. Happily, both my husband and I are on a journey of being the change we want to see in our world.

I heard a song by Natalie Grant that inspired me to share this thought today. We live in a world full of hatred, weakness, despair, darkness, bondage, poverty, welfare. It’s all around us, it’s hard to miss it – unless you are so focused on your own stuff that you miss it, like I used to do. I professed that I loved others and I did good things. I look back in reflection and realize how I did things for the wrong motives. I was letting my light shine yet sometimes my motives were compromised.

Simply said from Matthew 5:14-16: “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. 15Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. 16In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. “

I used to get hung up on the “good deeds” thing. I did it for people to see what a great person I was. Sure, I did lip service to my Creator, yet my underlying motive was messed up.

Being a woman of faith for nearly all my life, one might wonder how I could be that messed up. My transformation came a very short time ago. The gaps between the pivotal moments included living without much intention other than getting through that next day as a wife, mom, daughter, sister, employee, friend. I lived a life as the victim of the circumstances around me. I woke up one day and made a choice not to be a victim anymore. That pivotal moment changed my life immensely and forever.

What am I saying? Do something today to help others from the motive of just loving them. Take responsibility for your choices. Be a lighthouse. Be a safe house. Let your life be living proof of what love truly is. Genuinely love others by being your authentic self for no other reason than to love them where they are at. Get over your “schtuff” and shift into the life of authentic love.

Natalie Grant’s song, “This is Love”

This is Love

Coach Trudy