What is that?  I used to think that a master was someone in charge, an owner, the boss, the expert, the intelligent one, one with rank or status.  This was someone to be feared and to put up on a pedestal.

As I have learned over the last few years, a master is someone to hold in high regards – not just because of what they have done. A master is someone who is confident in their “being”, someone who is willing to get on the path to mastery and stay on it.

This path I refer to is the journey.  Anyone can hop on this path.  There is no pre-requisite other than a will and desire to learn a new skill.  So those of you who have been holding back because you thought it was for the uber-talented or only for those who were born into the journey, think again.

There are a few types of people that may get on the path and yet never stay on the journey.  The obsessive types of personalities will more times than not burn out before becoming a master of anything. The “toe in the water” type are just on the path to get their toe wet and have an experience of the journey.  Chances are they won’t last either.

The type of people who stay on the path of mastery are those that are in it for the long haul.  End results may motivate these people and yet it is the actual experience of the journey that holds the master on the path.

Pick a skill that you want to learn or get better at.  Choose a mentor or a coach to learn from.  Practice, practice, practice. Surrender to their teaching and to the discipline of practice.  Be intentional and whole-hearted.  Know your limits and push yourself to enlarge the boundaries of those limits.  Stop and smell the roses along the way.  Be grateful for how far you have come.  Remember it’s not about the destination; it’s about the journey.

On the Journey of Mastery

Coach Trudy


Fun Factor

Have you had fun today?  Have you had fun this week, this month, this year?  I have to admit that I am embracing my fun side again.  As a college student and young adult, I knew how to have fun – no question.  I embraced a lot of crazy adventure and fun in my married life, too.  I successfully threw a surprise birthday party for my husband for multiple years and he never saw it coming.  It was always fun.

If you are familiar with the four behaviour quadrants, the personality tree, or DISC, then you know about the personalities.  I have a strong “promoter”, “influencer”, or “sanguine” streak in me.  Yes, I have a strong dominant, controller streak as well.  For this blog post, we are talking about walking on the FUN side of life.

So back to the question, what have you done to embrace fun and adventure in your life today?  What are you waiting for?  Watch a funny video, go to a comedy club, watch your favorite sitcom, read a chapter from a joke book, go for a hike, go volunteer at the local soup kitchen, bake cookies and deliver them to your neighbors, listen to CD or mp3 of a comedian, call an old friend and laugh about the old days, hug a stranger, deliver a singing telegram to a co-worker…… Have fun!

For the benefits of what fun does for your life, check out this resource.  Have fun, laugh, and stay healthy!

Laughter is the Best Medicine

Fun Factor

Coach Trudy

Don’t Try to Fit In When You were Born to Stand Out

born to stand outI saw this saying on the wall at my girlfriend’s place. It stopped me in my tracks. We are all uniquely created to live and breathe and have our being. God doesn’t create junk, we have all heard that one a few times. Yet, do you believe it? Dig deep. Where are you placing your worth? In the external circumstances around you? In your children’s behavior? In the disappointments in your life that come your way?

I say that you have a choice to step into all that you can be, today, right now. For what purpose are you procrastinating? To get it “perfect”? I know you want to do it, so what’s holding you back? The haters and the naysayers in life? Will they be paying your bills tomorrow? The best time to get started on the life you long to have is now. Your boat sitting at the dock will not serve you long term. Set course and sail away. You can always course correct on your journey. It’s way easier to move a boat in motion than one that is tied up at the dock, true?

You were BORN to Stand Out.

Coach Trudy

Forever Strong

I was encourage recently to watch the movie Forever Strong. Maybe you have seen it or heard of the movie? It’s a 2008 rugby film directed by Ryan Little and written by David Pliler. Rugby is one of the few school sports that my family hasn’t been involved with directly and yet I do like a good sports movie now and again!

The story is about a rugby player named Rick Penning. He was captain of the team, a team that was fuelled by drugs & alcohol and ‘win at all cost’ attitude. What made it even more compromised was the team was coached by his own dad in whom Rick didn’t see eye-to-eye with. Due to some poor choices, Rick lands up in a Juvenile Detention Center. The manager of the Juvenile Detention Center gets Rick connected with the Highland Rugby team. Coach Larry Gelwix of the Highland Rugby Team took Rick in when he was at his lowest.

In pondering the theme of the movie, Forever Strong, I couldn’t help but introspect about my own life and the lives of those around me.   Coach Gelwix led his team with the theme: “Be forever strong on the field, so that you will be forever strong off the field.” What does that mean exactly?

Like my friend and mentor, D. Scott Pullan, would do, I dug a little deeper into the meaning of “forever strong”. Forever means continually, always, without ever ending. Strong means able to withstand great force or pressure, having moral, intellectual, or physical power, having great resources. Put those two words together and the meaning of “forever strong” means continually powerful in moral, intellect, or physical power. I would love to be remembered by that phrase, wouldn’t you?

This phrase “forever strong” served the Highland Rugby Team. They won 20 of 27 USA Rugby National Championships, six times runner-up, and one third-place finish all under Coach Larry Gelwix, a man of faith. That’s impressive. Coach Gelwix told Rick in one scene “Learn to listen and pay attention to that spirit inside of you. Learning to listen takes a lot of discipline. We only have one rule here: Don’t do anything that would embarrass you, your team, or your family.”

Some of the team’s founding beliefs were: “No drinking, no smoking, no drugs, keep clean with the girls, no cheating, no lying, be true to your character and your family. Have complete trust in each other! We are about winning – get a laser-like focus on every area of your life both on the field and off. Respect your family & ancestors. We stand on this field ready for battle. We honor our families & all our ancestors before us. We wear the emblem ‘to die for’ over our hearts.” I get chills when I heard this – the good kind of chills! You get the feel good feeling that these men are being trained for a higher good and achievement in life. A forgiveness & surrender quote that is worth sharing, “Don’t spend another minute being angry about yesterday. Free him, and you free yourself.” Forgiving someone is about letting the other person off the hook – whether we down deep think they deserve it or not. What are you waiting for? Who do you get to forgive today?

So in closing I found the key – “get laser-like focused” in every area of your life! Let nothing stand in the way of you and your dreams & goals. You are worth it. God created you uniquely and beautifully suited for great things. Get cleaned out of the “schtuff” that’s hindering you in moving forward, get balanced in every area of your life, and get crystal focused on what you want to change about your life. You can do it; I believe in you.

Be Forever Strong – Coach Trudy